Not everyone enjoys exercise. Just like anything else in the world, some people are going to love it, others are going to hate it, and some people live for it; however, if you enjoy exercise or not, it’s necessary. Exercise may be seen by some as yet another thing to add to their already tight schedule that only yields minimal results. “Isn’t a V8 enough to keep me healthy?” In years past, before the modern conveniences of the last few centuries, people naturally received exercise. Just running a house burned tons of calories. It took hours to prepare meals then that take just a few minutes to prepare now. We have televisions to sit and watch, computers at which to sit and stare, and lawn mowers we sit on as we ride around the yard complaining about the heat. These modern conveniences are amazing and I am quite glad to have them; yet, I cannot deny that we do not get the exercise from our daily chores that our ancestors enjoyed (or endured).
Exercise is not usually something the majority of people enjoy; however, those that exercise enjoy the good feeling from the released endorphins that follow a good workout, but getting the shoes on and getting started can be so difficult. We all enjoy the fun parts of relationships. We enjoy the nice meals out, the laughing hysterically at inside jokes, and cuddling to a movie in front of a fire. But, what about the things in life we need to do that are difficult? Doing difficult activities with those we love not only helps us conquer them, but the experience also helps to build intimacy. During a 30 minute walk, spouses can discuss their days, any issues with the kids, and ideas for the future all while getting their bodies in shape. Just 30 minutes a day of vigorous exercise can really improve your body’s functions for the long haul. You could be thinking more clearly, walking more briskly, and sleeping more soundly all while building your relationship with your future spouse (which the habit can more easily continue once married).
Maybe neither of you enjoys the slowness of walking. Perhaps you could jog together, and if you like that, train for a 5k, half, or full marathon together. Maybe walking, running or swimming doesn’t excite you or your spouse. You could buy a trampoline and jump around like little kids or you could find a sport like tennis or basketball that you both enjoy. You could even join a local pool and swim laps together.
Of course, you won’t be able to talk while you swim, but it is still beneficial to your relationship to have shared health goals. Having shared goals in a relationship builds teamwork and makes both people need and lean on each other. Without goals in your relationship, it is easy to slowly drift apart into two separate lives. One may be watching television while the other cleans or reads a book. One may be active outside of the home while the other person looks forward to an empty house to be alone. Some time apart is beneficial and even necessary at times; however, time together while working towards common goals is essential if you want your relationship and future marriage to thrive.
If you both cannot agree on what you like to do, jot down several activities that each person likes and then draw from a hat or alternate activities (hers one day, his the next, and repeat the cycle). This can work, it just takes both people agreeing that it needs to be done, and both people being willing to carve out time in the day to do it. It will be great for your body, your mind, and your future marriage. Happy moving!