As discussed in my last post, jealousy is ugly. It takes the glow out of your face and replaces it with wrinkles and frown lines. Jealousy leads to discontentment and a lifestyle of discontentment makes one miserable. But, when someone chooses contentment, joy, and self sacrifice, it instantly improves his or her appearance. No matter how unattractive people may be, when their faces light up, their looks instantly improve.
Just a little while prior to leaving for college, my godmother confronted me about my attitude. I was going through a tough transition in my life and was unhappy and frustrated. What I didn’t realize was how much it was affecting my face. Others were noticing it too and many were left wondering who had sandpapered my toilet seat.
After I was away at college a few weeks, I came home to visit and had someone tell me that so many people were amazed at the difference in me. Apparently, my being away from home made me appreciate being home and it showed all over my face. In a few weeks, I went from being grumpy to grateful and it instantly lifted my face.
Of course, it’s easier to see this in others than in yourself. We don’t walk around with mirrors in front of our faces. I’ve been shocked at how I look when I see myself on video or in a picture. We have an idea of how we look in our minds, but it’s often not how others see us.
I had a friendship a while back that endured several confrontations, mainly because she had facial expressions that appeared to say, “Heather, you’re an idiot” (there’s no telling what my facial expression said in return). There were several people who misread her facial expressions as well; but, when she decided to choose contentment and to wait on God’s blessings, her facial expressions changed. She began to look happier, more feminine, and more attractive.
Some of the most attractive people I know are not in their teens, 20’s or 30’s; rather, they are in their 60’s and 70’s. Sweet older ladies and joyful older men have such a hospitable vibe that draw people to them.
When I was a child, I had so much fun spending time with my grandmother’s friends. Sure, they had wrinkles and some of them had gray hair, but their smiles made up for everything. When I was around them, I felt better – more energized. On the flip side, a very attractive person can push people away by appearing to be, or acting, crabby and unapproachable.
In the US, we spend millions of dollars each year on cosmetics, hair supplies, facial cleansers, and other appearance enhancing products… and then we waste it all by roaming through life with a sour expression.
What your future husband will want to see when he gets home, more than a made up face, is a broad smile. What your future wife will want to see when she gets home, more than flawless hair or muscles, is a truly happy face. Start cultivating the habit of keeping a pleasant face; be grateful and content for what you have and choose to be happy.
Makeup, gel, mousse, perfumes, hairspray, and teeth whitening kits are all well and good, but don’t throw your money away by parading around looking mad. Work on your heart first and your face will follow.
Will you choose to be content today? How does it affect your face, and sense of well being, when you stop and count your blessings? Try counting your blessings and focusing on being content for one day, and let us know how different you feel!