Sex. It’s everyone’s favorite topic. It’s the most exciting chapter in all marriage books. In many ways, it has driven our culture. And for those who are choosing to wait until marriage to “partake,” it is an exciting and tantalizing mystery. So, as you prepare to connect intimately with your future husband or wife, consider the following advice on sexual intimacy: Create Your Own “Normal” Thanks to Hollywood, outspoken Aunt Emily, prudish Aunt Jane, and our talks with friends, we go into marriage with sexual expectations. We have such thoughts as “Newlyweds are supposed to do it every … [Read more...]
Freedom from Shame – Letting Go of the Past (Preparing for the Honeymoon, Part 2)
The honeymoon is an exciting time in a couple’s life. They have made it through the wedding; they are officially married; and now before the challenges and responsibilities of married life take hold, they get to enjoy some time alone in an enchanting location. Honeymoons are considered “good” by most people. But for some, the impending honeymoon evokes feelings of sadness. “Why didn’t I wait?” “I wish I could take my virginity back.” “I wish I could look forward to being with my future spouse without these feelings of shame and regret.” The Past Talk Eric and I are firm believers in … [Read more...]
Preparing for the Wedding Night (Preparing for the Honeymoon, Part 1)
The ceremony is over, you have danced the night away, and finally you are alone in the car waving goodbye to your friends and family. You are headed to your evening destination. It’s here. We actually made it. Tonight is the night! Like the wedding day, the wedding night is something people dream of for years. Some would say that women dream of the wedding day and men dream of the wedding night; but, I can assure you, women dream of the wedding night too. ~smile~ Couples plan the wedding meticulously, but they often have no plan for the wedding night. We will go to a room and have sex! … [Read more...]
How Premarital Sex Affects the Marriage (Guest Post)
Since she provides so much good insight on the topic of sex, Heather and I thought it was time again to ask J of HotHolyHumorous.com to post another guest post here at PreEngaged. (And, if you would like to learn about godly sex, we recommend her blog to you!) To cater to our audience, we asked her to write on the topic: “How Premarital Sex affects the Marriage Relationship.” She, in turn, wrote the below post. Read the below and then click Like, Tweet, or share the post with your friends to give her some love! How Premarital Sex Affects the Marriage These days, … [Read more...]
Sexual Sin and Forgiveness
Regret is a bear. There are very few of us who get through life and can honestly say, "I have no regrets." In fact, since we've all sinned and fallen short of God's glory, then surely we all have regrets. Thankfully, we don't have to be condemned any longer because Christ paid for our sin at Calvary. Is Sin Serious? Sin is indeed serious. Sadly, we often approach sin as “not ideal” instead of taking it as seriously as God does. Sin always has repercussions and always leads to death (does that sound just “not ideal” to you?). Death entered the world when Adam and Eve sinned. Sin is not … [Read more...]