How long it takes to recover from a break up varies from person to person. Someone who was in a relationship for three months and never talked about marriage will probably bounce back faster than someone who was on the verge of engagement. Sometimes, a six-week relationship sweeps someone away more than a previous two-year relationship did. Because of the pain of break ups, and because they help us practice better for divorce than marriage, we don’t recommend dating just for the sake of dating. We recommend dating with purpose. “When I grow tired of this relationship, or if we cannot … [Read more...]
Connecting with Mutual Friends (Connections after a Break Up, Part 2)
The aftermath of a break up can seem almost as frustrating, if not more so, than the break up itself. Have you ever dated someone and then realized you liked his or her family more than you liked your boyfriend or girlfriend? Is it not awkward to stay in touch with the family after the relationship has ended? And then, there are friends. Most couples have friends in common. What do you do with mutual friends after a break up? "I already lost my sweetheart. Do I have to lose my friends too?" Should I Try to Keep Connections with Our Mutual Friends? Before trying to reconnect with mutual … [Read more...]
Connecting with an Ex (Connections after a Break Up, Part 1)
Whoever said “Breaking up is hard to do” did not explain the half of it! Though breaking up is hard, it is not only the initial pain of the break up that people dread, but also the roller coaster of emotions experienced in the days and weeks following. It is the emptiness one battles, the awkward friendships, the redefining of oneself, and the development of the “new normal” that makes breaking up so tough. The good news about breaking up is that the pain does lessen. It does. And the more support you have from family, friends, and especially God, the easier the healing process will be. … [Read more...]
8 Suggestions to Consider While Recovering from a Break Up (Breaking Up is Hard To Do, Part 3)
This week, we are helping couples work through whether they should break up, whether they should get back together, and how to recover after a break up. Please “like” and share these posts with your friends and family so we may be able to help them too. Thank you! "He didn't deserve you." "She was just a chick." "You are so much better off without that jerk." "She was not worth your time." Friends try so hard to help us when our hearts are broken. They mean well, but in the beginning when our hearts are raw, we don't necessarily want to hear trash talk about the man or woman we still love … [Read more...]
7 Questions to Consider if You Should Get Back Together (Breaking Up is Hard To Do, Part 2)
This week, we are helping couples work through whether they should break up, whether they should get back together, and how to recover after a break up. Please “like” and share these posts with your friends and family so we may be able to help them too. Thank you! Anyone who has ever gone through a break up knows that, at certain moments, the anguish is so strong that you wonder if you can go on living. Yes, that may sound overly dramatic, but break ups are hard. There is a grieving process that follows a break up, especially for a break up which was not expected. In the midst of the grief … [Read more...]