We hope and pray you found some useful tools in the past couple weeks and are well on the way to speaking your sweetie’s love language fluently. We would be thrilled to hear about any lightbulb moments or helpful conversations you and your significant other had after reviewing each language! Understanding how Eric feels most loved (physical touch) has helped me nurture his heart more effectively than if I based my approach on what I need (quality time). When he comes home after a long day, I know he needs a gentle backrub. He would appreciate a gift and an elaborate home cooked meal, but … [Read more...]

Shelia had the worst day at work. She woke up late, her heel broke as she was running in from the parking lot, her boss yelled at her, she spilled coffee down the front of her blouse – and that was all before 8:30am. It was the kind of day that made her want to pack her car, move back home, and return to a life of curfews and high school dances. This adult gig is hard! How am I going to do this for the next fifty years?! Mid-way through the day, she texted her boyfriend James an incoherent stream of word vomit. She was clearly upset. He was not exactly sure what to do, but he knew he … [Read more...]

Roses are red. Violets are blue. It matters not what you say, But, instead, what you do. Loving in a Perfect World  In a perfect world, every couple would speak the same love language. Showing your honey love would come as naturally as breathing and blinking. But, alas, it is not a perfect world. It is an interesting world. The uniqueness of our other halves keep us on our toes and constantly growing – that is, if we allow our differences to breed growth and not turmoil. Neither Eric nor I are primarily acts of service – and we often joke about how sad it would be if one of us was. … [Read more...]

More than any of the other love languages, gifts speakers tend to feel the most reluctant to admit their needs. As if saying, “I need gifts from you” might make them look like gold diggers or materialistic primadonnas. I can understand that fear and I hope we dispel that myth so gift lovers everywhere will feel comfortable being open and honest with their sweethearts. During my college years, I remember talking to a fellow student about love, marriage, and all that marriage entails. ~wink~ Though I do not recall much about the conversation, one of her statements stood out to me. She … [Read more...]

Many children spell ‘love’ T-I-M-E and so do quality time speakers. This language bodes well for long-distance couples because they are forced to talk in order to spend time together when they are apart. When I think back to my teenage years, some of my fondest memories include talking on the phone for hours. Though I have waffled back and forth between physical touch and quality time, I am convinced my need for quality time is a few inches higher than my need for touch (though I love both of them!). When I consider my life, threads of quality time stand out and shine brightly. I loved … [Read more...]