Thanksgiving is on its way! Will you and your sweetie be traveling together? Will you be apart, but spending hours on FaceTime over the holiday season? However you will be connecting this Thanksgiving, make good use of the time! Below are a handful of connection building questions you can ask each other during all those hours together (these may be particularly good to have for a road trip to learn more about each other while filling the time!).
One of the highlights of my friendship with Eric was the summer we started dating. He was working full time at our university, and I was home for the summer with my parents. It seemed like nothing could be worse than being apart, but we had some of the best conversations that summer.
This is an exciting time for your relationship. Everything is new and you are constantly learning tidbits about each other. Don’t take this time for granted. Enjoy it! Soak it up!
Connection Building Questions
1. If you could travel to five places around the world, where would you go and why?
2. What is the most memorable experience you had with your Dad? Your Mom? Your Grandparents?
3. If you could go back in time and make one change, what would you change and why?
4. What goals would you make if you knew you could not fail?
5. What was the biggest obstacle you faced as a child?
6. What is the biggest obstacle you face as an adult?
7. If you won $20,000,000 in a sweepstakes, what would you do with the money? (It’s fun to have a pad of paper for this one.)
- What tribute do you hope to receive from your children and grandchildren at your fiftieth wedding anniversary party?
9. Toilet paper: Over or under? (A truly important question if ever there was one!)
10. If you could only be shown love in one way for the rest of your life, which way would you choose? Loving touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, or acts of service?
11. What scares you or causes you anxiety?
12. What was the most meaningful gift you ever received? Why did it mean so much to you?
13. What is(/are) your spiritual gift(s)? What ministries are you involved in and what other ministry opportunities would you like to pursue?
14. Do you prefer well planned out activities, spontaneity, or a blend of the two? Discuss this in detail. Talk about specific instances.
15. How do you feel about adoption? Is it something you would ever consider? Why or why not? Fertility treatments? Birth control?
16. If you were stranded on the side of the road at 3am, who would you feel comfortable calling?
17. Do you think divorce is ever an option? If so, when?
18. Which ten baby names do you love? Which ten baby names would you never name your children?
19. What are a few of your favorite Bible passages? Why do these specific passages hold special meaning for you?
20. Who is your hero? How did he or she earn this distinction?
21. If you could model your future marriage after one couple’s marriage, which couple would you choose? Describe them and why you admire their relationship.
22. What does your ideal bedroom look and feel like? Color? Bed size? TV or no TV? Temperature? etc.
23. If you could only eat at five restaurants for the rest of your life, which restaurants would you choose and why?
24. What items are on your bucket list? (If you don’t have a bucket list, create one. A bucket list is a list of experiences you want to have or goals you want to accomplish before you “kick the bucket”.)
25. If you were stranded on a deserted island, which three items would you want to have with you and why?
Bonus – The Miracle Question: If you woke up tomorrow morning and everything in your life was perfect, what would that look like?
What other connection building questions can you add to this list?