Some of your married fights will go down in family history. Eric and I will be talking about our Winnie the Pooh store brawl for years to come. And, then, some of your fights will be so silly that you will almost instantly forget them.
Below are a few topics which are sure to bring up some reoccurring “silly” fights if you and your future spouse are not in agreement on them! They may not land you in couples’ counseling or divorce court, but they can certainly rob you both of some peaceful moments!
- Temperature. This may not seem like a big deal, but you’d be surprised! If one of you likes to keep your bedroom at 65 degrees, and the other cannot sleep unless it’s at least 75 degrees, someone’s going to experience some late night misery. If one of you is cold-natured and the other is hot-natured, you will need to work out a compromise or system that ensures you can both be comfortable. Thermostat wars can get ugly (and expensive)! ~wink~
- Holiday Plans. Before marriage, this may not seem like an issue. After marriage, it can become a real issue. If you are both determined to hang onto your traditions, you will have to do some giving and taking. Once you are married, neither of you will enjoy an exact replica of past holidays. Just the fact that you will be together on the holidays makes them different. Discuss those traditions which mean the most to you. Talk about plans for seeing both families. Be in agreement about how you will approach holidays once you are married. You may even want to discuss your plans with both sets of your parents once you reach an agreement. And, be aware that you will likely have to revisit this topic as life changes.
- Bed Size. Full? Queen? King? California King? Trust me, people! This is important! ~smile~ Get an Eastern king or California King (depending on how tall you two are). If at all possible, shove a giant bed into your master bedroom. Unless a king-sized bed simply will not fit in your living space, get one! It is better to have too much room to sleep than not enough! You may think you like to sleep-cuddle, but you may get married and realize that you don’t want to be touched in your sleep. King-size beds allow couples to enjoy being together without the discomfort of too much togetherness. ~smile~ And, if you each want your own covers, I say go for it! The fewer reasons to smack your spouse in his or her sleep, the better. (You can also discuss the purchase and utilization of breathe right strips should the need arise. ~smile~)
- How to Have Fun. I want to stroll around the lake and feed the ducks. I want to mountain bike until I’m disgusting and smelly. No couple is going to have an identical set of hobbies, but couples should share many hobbies in common. It is great when a husband and wife can find joy in playing together. Don’t be fooled into thinking that sex is the only hobby you and your mate will need to share in common. Sex is great, but it will only be a small part of your overall relationship. But, think about this – the more hobbies you and your sweetie have in common, the more fun you will have together. The more fun you have together, the stronger connection you will build. The stronger connection you build, the more likely you are to enjoy a satisfying sex life together. ~wink~ Sounds like marrying someone who has a similar definition of “fun” is important in more ways than one!
Hopefully, this series has sparked some lively conversation between you and your sweetie. We hope you will work through each topic together and make sure you are on the same page moving forward.
Marriage is hard work, but oh so worth the effort. We want all of our couples (both clients and blog readers) to have the greatest start possible!
How will you and your sweetie ensure that silly fights won’t rob you of your priceless connection?