Eric loves backrubs. After a day of sitting at a computer, tensing his back and hunching over to type, he appreciates some relief. First, he likes his back massaged, then scratched, then rubbed. After that he’s just moments away from Sleepy Town. Though I do my best, I’m sure that I could learn to give more therapeutic deep tissue massages. Unfortunately, at present, I have no idea how to give a therapeutic deep tissue massage.
Christmas before last, we were offered a couple’s massage as a Christmas gift, but Eric just could not go through with it. As much as he loves a relaxing back rub, he is very uncomfortable with the idea of someone he doesn’t know (i.e., someone he’s not married to) rubbing his back. I’m thankful to know he doesn’t want another woman (or man) massaging his back, but that means that if he’s going to get a good, quality massage, I’m going to be the one to do it. So, I have a choice. I can just keep doing my best with my limited knowledge, or I can take a massage therapy class and learn how to give amazingly relaxing backrubs!
So, let me point the question at you…. Is there something you could learn that would be a blessing to your honey? Granted, if you aren’t married yet, I wouldn’t recommend learning to give great backrubs (unless you are preparing for when you’re married); but, is there something you could learn to do that would be helpful or exciting to your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Does he love to play tennis but you don’t know the first rule? Maybe a few tennis lessons and a surprise tennis match would be a gift to put a smile on his face. If you are willing to put in the practice, you both will have something additional you can enjoy together!
Has she always depended on her dad to change her tires and oil? If you don’t already know how to do these tasks, it would probably fill her with a lot of security if you learned some basic car care.
There is something powerful about taking your time to learn something that will bring happiness, excitement, security, or comfort to your significant other. It’s important to tell our loved ones how much we love them. Yet, in addition to verbally affirming our love, we should also show our love in a myriad of ways. Choosing to learn how to do a task or play a game, which your sweetheart values, shows that person in your life that he or she is worth your time and effort. So, what can you learn that will bring a smile to your sweetie’s face?
Have you ever learned to do something just to make your boyfriend or girlfriend happy?