If you have not heard of Dr. Paul Tripp’s video series, What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage, I strongly urge you to check it out and purchase it. It is a small monetary investment for some of the best marriage advice you will find anywhere.
I’m a relationship coach who’s been married for almost a decade and this series rocked my foundations. I urge everyone who is dating, engaged, married, or even remotely interested in getting married someday to get a copy of this series and internalize Dr. Tripp’s messages. All I can say is, “Wow.”
We spend so much time trying to get to the bottom of the problems we face in our relationships.
Maybe we don’t get enough alone time.
Maybe we’re just too stressed?
Maybe our family situations are causing us to lash out in anger towards one another.
Instead, it is our hearts which are at the heart of our relationship problems. We treat each other kindly or unkindly based on what’s already in our hearts.
“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” (Luke 6:45, ESV)
Me, Me, Me…
We are all burdened with the ME affliction. We think about ourselves and how situations affect us far too much. We are fallen creatures who love comfort and getting our way. As the Lord works on our hearts, and we grow in grace, we become more concerned about others and less concerned about ourselves.
It is in our closest relationships that the depth of our selfishness is best seen. When I am shopping, I’m more than happy to let the elderly lady with two items go ahead of me in line. When I’m on the road, I’m happy to wave people in front of me. I’m gracious to strangers and offer a warm smile.
But, just let Eric wake me up and see how selfless I am… not.
It is humbling to step back and scan the entirety of your relationship, especially when you are convinced that everything wrong with it is your sweetie’s fault. How do I know this? ~smile~
At times, I’ve been horrifically angry with Eric, and convinced that 90% of all our difficulties were because of his shortcomings. I landed at such a conclusion because I was focused on what he was not doing instead of focusing on what I could be doing. I have no control over him and his actions, but I can do something about myself. I can stop worshipping at the altar of me and find ways to respect him more, improve his home environment, and love him the way I want to be loved – unconditionally.
But, still – shocking news flash… – It’s not always about me.
My brain has known this for twenty-five years, but my heart took longer to catch on.
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The little bit I shared above is just the tip of the iceberg. If you are serious about having a quality, God-honoring, thriving marriage, this video series is for you. Chances are, you’ll be recommending it to everyone you know like I do! ~smile~
Enjoy this short video introducing the What Did You Expect? series and consider purchasing your own copy today. It is worth its weight in gold! Even though it’s directed towards married couples, it’s actually a message all couples should hear and digest before getting engaged – and especially before getting married. No matter what stage your relationship is in, this series is for you. ~smile~ Enjoy!!!
Are you ready to revolutionize your relationship from the inside out?