Seasons change, sometimes on a dime – and when they do, we have to adapt. In the course of your marriage, you will probably have seasons when you and your sweetie get to spend ample time together and other seasons when you grasp for any moments to catch up.
When those busy seasons come, be prepared. ~smile~ Below are a few ways you and your sweetie can connect when time is not abundant. Keep the flame burning so your relationship will still be intact once life calms down a bit!
Always Speak Before Bed, Even if it’s only for a Few Minutes
Stay up to date on what’s going on with each other. Ask about work; ask about school; ask about joys and stressors. Be aware of what is going on in your sweetie’s world. Have a standing bedtime date (on the phone or in person) whether you are married or dating. If you cannot talk at bedtime, try your best to catch up for a handful of minutes at some point in the evening.
If you have a bit more time available, try to spend at least thirty minutes connecting with each other at night. Married couples should focus on each other, hold hands, rub backs, and make the most of the moments. Television is nice for when you want to veg out together, but it should not supercede your quality time.
Never Underestimate the Power of Love Notes
Eric once met a guy who played the “SHMILY” game with his wife. They would leave notes lying around for each other that simply said SHMILY (“See How Much I Love You”). This is a small way to let your sweetie know that he or she is loved and on your mind. They can be left on cars, in lunch bags, in wallets, on bathroom mirrors, or anywhere he or she is sure to see it!
You can also leave notes around that express your appreciation for each other. You can be cute and leave “Will you be my girlfriend? Check yes [ ] or no [ ]” notes in unique locations. Have fun with it and play along. Even if you don’t need the affirmation, chances are your sweetheart does.
Utilize Texting Even if it’s not Your Forte
Texting may seem impersonal, but it beats no communication at all. It is often frowned upon to spend work time whispering sweet nothings to your girlfriend over the phone; but, a quick “you’re beautiful” text on your way from one meeting to the next is a brief way of connecting with your number one lady.
Have an Affirmation Box and/or an Affirmation E-mail Account
This may be easier if you are married, unless you make two affirmation boxes – one for each of your apartments. This box is a special place where you can leave happy notes for each other. Then, whenever your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to pull them out and read them, they are all there! Even if your man isn’t lovey dovey, I bet he would love pulling out reasons why you respect him, and why he’s your hero. What man wouldn’t?
In place of, or in addition to, the affirmation box, consider creating an e-mail address that is only for each other. Sure, you can Facebook, text, and communicate in other ways, but there is something exciting about having a personal e-mail account set aside only for each other. As long as you both keep it a secret, you won’t have to worry about anyone else seeing what you say. It’s cute. Try it. ~smile~
Scrutinize Your Schedule and See Where You Can Afford to Make Some Changes
Last, but not least, look at your schedules and see if there is anything you can move around or get rid of in your schedule (even for the time being). If you don’t have any time for each other, you may be overextending yourself. Sometimes, school or work projects have to take precedence for a while; but, if being apart is a way of life, something needs to change. If you are giving all of yourself to others, and little attention to your sweetheart, it will hurt your relationship after a while – even if your significant other is an understanding person.
What ways have you and your sweetie found to connect in the busy times? Comment below and share your insights with others! ~smile~
Hopefully you are about to create your new e-mail address. ~wink~
What are other ways you can connect with your significant other when time is scarce?