How many times a week do you say, “Yes,” when someone asks you for a favor, a listening ear, or an insignificant loan? How many times a week do you say, “No,” to those same requests? If you had to self-diagnose, would you say you struggle with saying No to people and “opportunities”? If your mouth does not allow you to form the simple word No, you are in good company. I am a recovering Yes-woman; and though I used to think of myself as kind and giving, I realized along the way that my reasons for saying Yes often had more to do with me and my desires and less to do with others’ and their … [Read more...]

“But, we will only grow closer the longer we are together!” says every couple on their wedding day. Most modern couples get married expecting an amazing ride. Some think their life will be peaceful and harmonious; whereas, others expect chaos and craziness. On occasion, couples emerge who want to move with the wind and others who want to stay grounded in one place for a lifetime. However, all these couples – all those who are marrying for love – have one specific trait in common. Wherever they go in life, they expect to go (or stay) together – till death. From the most conservative to … [Read more...]

When you hear the exclamation, “Happy Valentine’s Day!” or even simply the phrase, “Valentine’s Day,” what is your first emotion? Excitement? Dread? Nothingness? My feelings on Valentine’s Day have changed over time. As a child, I loved it! It meant waking up to my favorite candy and a card from my Daddy. Then, there was always a Valentine’s party at school, complete with sweets galore and a Valentine card exchange. After discovering boys, Valentine’s Day changed from year to year. If I was dating someone, I highly anticipated “Love” Day. When I was twelve, I recall getting a card in the … [Read more...]

Do you keep a journal of your relationship? Do you take a few minutes to jot down milestones or note the details of special nights spent with your sweetheart? When I think back to the year Eric and I became a couple, most of my memories are hazy. Some moments stand out in my mind; whereas, many others I struggle to recall. However, what I do remember about that year is what I neglected while on the road to the altar. As you prepare for your wedding day, and hopefully your lifetime of love, be careful not to abandon these important areas of your life: 1. Your Friends It seems like only … [Read more...]