Yesterday, I was talking to my husband about some decisions we need to make. My concern was that I was allowing my fears to hinder Eric from following the path Christ would have for us.  I leaned over to him and said, "I want to be your helpmate, not your helpweight!" After I said it, I laughed hysterically at how silly it sounded; but, after thinking it through, I wondered how many times I've acted more as a weight for him to carry than as a suitable helper propelling him forward in his calling. When I was single, I remember asking the Lord for a husband that knew his calling and would not … [Read more...]

This is a big issue that needs to be discussed prior to marriage. Some women have big career aspirations, while others simply want to be homemakers. There is nothing shameful about wanting to stay home and care for your family. Society tends to look down on such arrangements, implying that women are giving up their talents and true selves to become slaves to thankless children. It's no wonder that so many women feel compelled to be in the workforce – because they believe it is what they are supposed to do. America is success-obsessed. Success is a wonderful thing, but do we have the correct … [Read more...]

Who did the dishes in your house growing up? Who mowed the lawn? Who got up at night with you when you were sick? When you think of your mom, do you see a pant suit, a briefcase, a dress or an apron? When you think of your Dad do you think of a suit, a ball cap, a uniform, or a tool belt?  Whether we like it or not, we are shaped by our childhoods. The way we are raised seems "normal" to us until we reach a certain age. In the movie The Truman Show, the creator and director of the show, Christof, was asked "How do you keep him from figuring out that it is a show?" Christof responded, "We … [Read more...]