Many of us don’t like asking others for help. It is a pride buster to admit to someone that you don’t have it all together, all the time. There are things with which I need help that aggravate me. I would like to be able to lift heavy things by myself. I would like to be able to figure out computer problems without pulling my hair out and making the problem worse. But, alas, I am not perfect, and I am often in need of help from others. A few years ago, I loved the TV show Wife Swap. For a while, I watched it faithfully until I became bored with it. While visiting my parents recently, I … [Read more...]
When It Seems Impossible to Love and Respect
I think we can all agree that it's easy to show others love and respect when they are showing us love and respect; however, there are times when it seems impossible to love and respect. We generally don't get the urge to be nasty to someone who is complementing us and showing us affection. As well, when we're getting our needs for love and respect met, we often innately feel compelled to show appreciation back to the person. However, what about when we feel starved of love or are utterly disrespected? This is a tough topic within relationships. There are few people on Earth that will ever … [Read more...]
Practicing Marriage
I just got home from Walmart. I usually leave there with a sick feeling as I look at the receipt and try to figure out what part of common groceries could possible cost so much! Usually, I want to get in and out as quickly as possible and am ashamed of those times I almost ran over people swinging wildly from aisle to aisle. Today, as I was tucking my long receipt into my purse, I looked up to see an elderly couple, in front of me, walking out the door to their vehicle. I stopped and waited a few minutes so they wouldn't feel rushed, and I couldn't help but smile as I watched them. He stood … [Read more...]
Know Your Love Language
Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages, was originally published in 1992 and has sold over 6,000,000 copies and has been translated into thirty-eight languages. Love is a universal interest and many people are interested in knowing how to speak their language – and their partner’s language – of love a little better. It is important that you know your love language as well. Gary Chapman discusses what he discovered as the five love languages in his book and his theory is that each of us has a primary love language; that is, we give and receive love in a specific manner. The five love … [Read more...]
Unconditional Respect, Part 2
In this post, I will talk as if the reader is married. If you are not married, make sure to apply these concepts of your future husband. After talking about what unconditional respect is in our previous post, let’s talk about what respecting our (current or future) husbands is not: Respecting our husbands is not taking abuse. If your husband is physically or emotionally abusing you, it is time to seek outside help. When abuse is present, it is not a matter of disrespect to seek shelter and protection elsewhere and also require counseling before moving back in. Discuss the situation with your … [Read more...]