Today is “Water a Flower” Day! In honor of such a festive occasion, I think we all should plant some flowers, water them, and watch them grow (or, in our case, hire someone to do it and have the rain water them ~smile~). Neither Eric nor I have a green thumb, but I do enjoy the flowers that bloom in my neighbors’ yard each year. Their house is close enough to us that it is almost like having beautiful blooms in our own yard. Since everything goes back to relationships with me, the act of watering flowers makes me think of couples watering and nourishing each other. Many couples “plant … [Read more...]
Navigating the Stages of Spiritual Growth in Your Relationship (Celebrating Easter, Part 5)
It may come as a surprise to some, but Eric and I don’t recommend couples dive into deep Bible study and prayer together at the beginning of their budding relationship. Because of the emotional and spiritual bonding which happens when a couple seeks the Lord together, we think the amount of spiritual intimacy shared should slowly grow as the relationship grows. When we read the Bible with someone, we don’t necessarily feel any closer to him or her. But, when we study the Bible with someone, we begin to verbalize questions, ideas, convictions, and personal experiences (e.g., “Wow, I always … [Read more...]
What Is Your Biggest Struggle?
If you and your significant other are seriously considering marriage, it may be time to discuss that area of your life where you struggle most. Even the most successful business man and the most "put together" woman you will ever meet have something imperfect about their lives. Do you struggle with laziness, anger, or jealousy? Do you find yourself on a constant quest for money? Is there a temptation you constantly face that brings you back time and again to the feet of Jesus for forgiveness and restoration? One thing to note: if you are not sure that you want to marry your boyfriend or … [Read more...]
Sharing Too Much, Sharing Too Soon
In my life, I have been blessed with many guardians. In addition to my wonderful parents, there are other adults who have taken the time to love and guide me through the dizzying seasons of childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood. One such guardian is the mother of one of my dearest friends. During beach trips or long, late night talks, my friend's mom gave me much advice in regards to my romantic relationships. Like many young people, I didn't always want the advice. Although she advised me on a number of topics, the main lesson that sticks out in my mind is the sharing … [Read more...]