This past year, Eric and I wrote a book titled: “So You Want to be a Fiancée?: How pre-engagement counseling can change your life.” During this series, we are highlighting a handful of chapters! Today, we’re looking at the fourteenth chapter: Counseling Myths Counseling Myths What emotions does the word “counseling” conjure up in your mind? Does it evoke pleasant emotions or negative ones? For years the words ‘counseling,’ ‘therapy,’ and ‘psychiatry’ have carried undesirable stigmas with the public. There is an idea floating around out there that only severely disturbed people seek out … [Read more...]

This past year, Eric and I wrote a book titled: “So You Want to be a Fiancée?: How pre-engagement counseling can change your life.” During this series, we are highlighting a handful of chapters! Today, we’re looking at the twelfth chapter: Relationship Red Flags Red Flags What is a red flag? Red flags are tell-tale signs that pop up in your relationship, warning you to take extreme caution in moving forward toward marriage with your boyfriend or girlfriend. If your boyfriend gets angry every time you look in the general direction of another guy, that is a red flag warning you that this … [Read more...]

This past year, Eric and I wrote a book titled: “So You Want to be a Fiancée?: How pre-engagement counseling can change your life.” During this series, we are highlighting a handful of chapters! Today, we’re looking at the ninth chapter: What Topics Can We Expect to Cover in Pre-Engagement Counseling? What Do You First Think Of? What are the first three topics that spring to mind when you think of premarital counseling? My first three topics are: finances, communication, and conflict. Most of us have a preconceived idea of what to expect in marital preparation counseling and a lot of us … [Read more...]

This past year, Eric and I wrote a book titled: “So You Want to be a Fiancée?: How pre-engagement counseling can change your life.” During this series, we are highlighting a handful of chapters! Today, we’re looking at the seventh chapter: Preparing for Pre-Engagement Counseling Pre-pre-engagement Counseling Being the psychology nerds that we are, Eric and I looked forward to premarital counseling more than most couples. In fact, when we were just friends, we decided to sign up for our college’s premarital counseling class with one of our campus pastors – and, perhaps we did not think that … [Read more...]

This past year, Eric and I wrote a book titled: “So You Want to be a Fiancée?: How pre-engagement counseling can change your life.” During this series, we are highlighting a handful of chapters! Today, we’re looking at the fifth chapter: What Should I Do If My Guy or Gal is not Interested in Pre-Engagement or Premarital Counseling? A New Concept Many of our pre-engaged couples have told us their friends think they are crazy for seeking out counseling before engagement. New paradigms are hard to receive at first. How many people were hesitant to try Facebook, but now cannot be dragged away … [Read more...]