Some days, writing for this blog is hard. I sit down with my laptop and have the hardest time getting words down – after all, I want to make sure what I’m writing is worth reading. Still, distractions call me from all sides. I wonder if Susie has uploaded her vacation pictures to Facebook? I wonder what the difference is between a single camera and multi-camera comedy? I should eat something… again. On those days, I guess you could say I am just not motivated.
After I reach a writing deadline (which I usually meet with mere minutes to spare), I usually write nothing the next day – not a single, solitary sentence. My mind and fingers are on strike for at least twenty-four hours after a big push. ~smile~ Accomplishing tasks is so difficult when the motivation is not there.
The same is true when it comes to love, romance, and all that goes alone with it. Some days we just aren’t motivated to give to our sweeties and to pour into another person. I get it. Totally get it. And it’s normal to need a day off duty every now and then. No one can be Mr. or Mrs. Romance all the time (unless that really is your last name!). Some days, you just have to admit that the drive and passion are taking a much needed snooze.
So, how can you connect with your sweetie on those days when you barely want to get out of bed?
Have a Lounging Date
Some of the most fun I’ve ever had with Eric has involved doing as little as possible. I enjoy lounging around the house, cuddling, and watching movies. Eric is a get up and go kind of guy most of the time, so lying around is not often his forte; but, when we do, I thoroughly enjoy it!
When you encounter those days when you don’t even feel like walking into the kitchen for food, consider connecting with your sweetie through just hanging out. You don’t have to communicate. You don’t have to ask probing questions. You don’t even have to talk. Movies, snacks, and as little thinking as possible. That’s okay every now and then, don’t you think?
If you and your sweetie are not married yet, be careful with the lounging. I would recommend lounging in the upright position and in an open room where a roommate could walk in at any second. ~smile~ Save bedroom lounging for the honeymoon and after.
Pick an Activity to do Together that Always Satisfies
Call me boring, but I am almost always up for take-out and a good movie. It is my go-to recreational activity. When I was a kid one of the highlights of my life is when Mom, Dad, and I got to eat pizza in the TV room and watch a movie – followed by ice cream, of course. Okay, so I didn’t have the most exciting childhood. I’m branching out more now. ~wink~ (More on that to come… stay tuned!)
What is your go-to activity? What are you up for even when you feel completely blah and exhausted? Something you would get up and do even if it was pouring down rain and thirty-five degrees outside. Find that hobby and share it with your sweetie (assuming he or she is up for it). Not everyone is this way, but I am motivated by fun. If I’m feeling down and someone suggests take out and a movie, suddenly my blood starts pumping a little faster.
What makes your blood pump faster? When you are having a hard time getting yourself in gear, reach for your go-to hobby and see if it does not make you feel better. Not only that, but you can still spend some quality time with your sweetie even when you aren’t putting in tons of effort.
Connect by Temporarily Disconnecting
Why don’t you connect by spending some time apart? But that makes no sense. Actually, it makes perfect sense. It is important to keep a strong bond with your special someone, but it is also important to give each other space on occasion. Some of the happiest couples around will tell you that they spend time with their friends and give their “togetherness” a rest once in a while.
If you are having a day where you have little to give, why don’t you suggest some time apart? Your sweetie can call up friends, take some time to run errands, go on a nature walk alone, or dive into a good book. You can sleep, watch movies, read, or whatever comes naturally to you. It could be that your body just needs some rest. Some Saturdays after a long, hard week, Eric likes to lie in bed and play games on his iPad. He can’t move quickly all the time! We have to slow down occasionally, and I think we often feel unmotivated when we’re worn out!
What are some other ways you can think of to connect with your sweetie on those lazy days? It may help to have a list handy for those times when you just can’t figure out what to do. Don’t be too alarmed if you run across a couple of energy-less days. Only get concerned if your lack of motivation lasts for several days or weeks. At that point it could be something more serious and you should consider seeing a doctor.
Yes, embrace your blah days and let your body and mind rest; and, when possible, connect with your sweetie by simply sitting next to each other. If you can tell that your sweetheart needs a physical or mental break, help facilitate a day of rest and relaxation. ~smile~
What is your go-to activity for blah days?